The Woman Who Cried Pig Feet

For quite a few years a daughter received many calls from her mother. Many times the calls come during her work hours, hours she’s busy caring for her children, or other times when she is unavailable to chat. When she answered or returned the calls, the exchange is usually a request for something that can wait or of no great importance. Given the strained relationship of the daughter and her mom, the daughter often does not prioritize accepting the calls or returning them.

One day the daughter received a call just like many times…


This nation is once again at a turning point on racial relations in this country. We have definitely been here before. But as many have observed, we see more support from white allies than we have seen in the past. To make sure we are on par with Black folks’ full and authentic liberation in this country, we must be sure to leave the master’s tools behind.

A pandemic and the murders of George Floyd, Breanna Taylor, and Ahmaud Aubrey, have once again forced this nation to reckon with race and engage with the movement for Black Lives. We are…


Black women are producers. Put us on a task or a project, and we are going to ensure flawless execution. We believe in excellence in all that we do. This gift and curse is what makes us popular one minute and canceled the next.

A colleague and sister friend shared an article with me six or so months ago. The article was titled, “When Black Women Go From Office Pet to Office Threat.” The article discusses how Black women experience race and gender bias in the workplace. …


Taking a step back in order to move forward: Understanding Race

I have the privilege of facilitating racial dialogue on a frequent basis. As a social justice educator, it is my mission to seek liberation by building awareness and having honest conversation on hard topics like race, racism, injustice, whiteness, and oppression. As my co-facilitator and I move quickly through the agenda in this 8 or 16 hour conversation, there is often not enough time to examine race in a deeper more meaningful way.

We attempt to engage our participants in building a pathway towards change, while exploring the implications of race, power, and privilege in America. As I have participated…


I would say forgive yourself, but that doesn’t really apply here because I don’t believe you have anything to forgive yourself for.

Every day we are confronted with numerous situations in which we make a choice. We get out of bed, we get dressed, we leave our homes and go about our day. We meet people. We reach out to people we already know. We go to work. We take on tasks; old and new. We stretch and bend ourselves. We try something new. We talk to someone with a different world view. We engage in dialogue, we sit quiet…


No, I was not meeting Eminem (the Real Slim Shady), but I was getting some shade.

The Backstory.

I’ve been working here (as a Director) for a little over a year. She’s been here for slightly over two months.

There was a breakfast event hosted by my fiduciary which is her employer. No details necessary, just know that we see each other five days a week.

Anyway, I walked in the breakfast event yesterday and greeted every single employee of my fiscal sponsor agency. Some of us even embraced each other with hugs and yada yada yada chit chat. She…


So what’s the back story. Well, against all my intuition, I decided to go on a date or two after being divorced for three years. Out the gate, this ‘ish has been super interesting. First, I underestimated what being an 40 year old mom of twins, doctorate student, full time professional and jack of all crafting would mean in the dating sphere. I also forgot how super duper elusive and introverted I am and how that would offend some people. My bad, I should have remembered because then this happened.

I somehow convinced myself to go on a few dates…


You may not have asked but I am going to tell you anyway. With Mother’s Day coming up, I thought I would share some gift ideas that I am sure the woman in your life will appreciate.

I am going to break these recommendations up by theme because there is a lot that needs to be shared for those who think flowers, candy, dollar store items, and the little winky dos in the target dollar aisle are the best gifts moms want to receive. Rather than call you out; I am just going to help you out. …


Alicia Keys has lit a fire up under some folks with [her] choice to go #makeupfree. When she showed up to the MTV VMAs bare faced, the critical wagons circled and we were once again reminded that everyone is beautiful if we look as great as her without makeup.

We want all women to feel beautiful in their own skin and we keep pushing these ideas that beauty is about what’s on the inside and not the outside. Dove’s global “Real Beauty” campaign set out to disrupt the status quo of beauty standards by creating a platform where beauty…


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The Strong Black Woman is in crisis. Her survival mechanisms, capacity for care, making a way out of no way capabilities, and being one the most educated group in the United States; place her in an interesting yet complex paradox.

The side affects of such a paradox show up in various aspects of her life. Whether it be motherhood, dating, sex, friendships, or intimate relationships; the myth of the strong black woman is a unwanted honor for many of us.

As an educated, divorced, co-parenting black woman — who works more than one job while parenting and pursuing an advanced…

Unconventional Activist

Unapologetic Black Woman, Policy Professional, Activist, Lover of Politics, Mom of Twins, Doctoral Student, Writer

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